“Stop beating yourself up. You are a work in progress; which means you get there a little at a time, not all at once.” – Unknown
In the days of my early twenties, a decade ago, I wasn’t truly my own ally. While college life appeared satisfactory academically, genuine happiness eluded me. Errors and failures led to prolonged self-inflicted distress.
My focus fixated on flaws, overshadowing life’s small marvels and my own worth. I adopted the habit of measuring my appearance, academic accomplishments, and dating experiences against others’, fostering a cycle of negativity and dwindling self-regard.
Yet, with time and effort, I managed to break free from this detrimental rut. Step by step, I reshaped my mindset and perspective, albeit with occasional setbacks.
I now wish to share five habits instrumental in my transformative journey. These practices, which I continue to embrace daily, have become cornerstones for building and maintaining my self-esteem.
- Embrace Self-Comparison: Rather than benchmarking against others, I shifted focus to self-comparison. Tracking personal growth, celebrating progress, and acknowledging both small and significant achievements fostered a positive self-view.
- Practice Kindness: A revelation unfolded—kindness toward others bred self-compassion. Treating others with consideration indirectly nurtured my self-esteem. The reciprocity of kindness reinforced my efforts.
- Befriend Yourself: In times of stumbling, I adopted the perspective of a supportive friend. Instead of self-critique, I questioned: How would a friend offer assistance? This approach guided me through constructive, uplifting paths.
- Reject Perfectionism: Releasing the grip of perfectionism emerged as a pivotal shift. Recognizing the harm in demanding faultlessness, I embraced the concept of “good enough.” This approach yielded not only improved results but also overall life enhancement.
- Cherish Self-Esteem: Understanding the paramount role of self-esteem, I uncovered a cascade of benefits:
- Simplified life, reduced needless stress.
- Lessened dependency on external validation.
- Decreased self-sabotage, increased pursuit of deserved opportunities.
- Enhanced attractiveness in relationships of all kinds.
These profound benefits illuminate my journey. I’ve discovered that maintaining self-esteem renders life simpler, relationships richer, and pursuits more fruitful. This newfound perspective, forged by these practices, serves as the compass guiding me through life’s varied terrain.
In sum, my voyage from self-criticism to self-assurance encapsulates the essence of these habits. The quest for self-improvement is ongoing, achieved not in leaps but in gradual steps.
